By Ariana Brasman
The seven-letter word that impacts people’s lives so drastically: A N X I E T Y. It can be a short-term feeling of nerves you experience before going into a job interview or standing up in front of a class to give a presentation. Or it could be a long-term feeling of constant worry and insecurity about yourself. An anxious mind is filled with worry, self-doubt and constant questioning of your own decision-making. Below is a list of the top three ways to overcome anxiety and take back your life.
1. Remove yourself from the person or situation causing the anxiety.
Anxiety comes with multiple emotions. It could be the worry you feel right before walking into an exam or during your exam. It could be the feeling of embarrassment in front of the boy or girl you like because you feel that you acted stupid or weird around them. When anxiety hits you, take a minute to sit back and breathe. When you feel anxious, the best thing to do is to walk away from the person or situation that is making you feel that way, if it’s possible (you can’t just walk out when taking an exam). Take a moment to be with yourself and de-stress. Then you can go back in feeling refreshed and recharged.
2. Believe in yourself.
What if I handled the situation this way? What if I spoke to my significant other in a calmer tone? What if I failed my exam? Anxiety is made-up of “what if?” questions when you ask yourself about situations that could have played out differently. Whatever the situation may be, anxiety leads us to question ourselves and constantly analyze our own behavior and actions. So, how do you overcome this? Start by trusting in yourself, even though it may be easier said than done. When you start questioning things, worry builds up. Believe in yourself by trusting in what you’re doing, what you’re thinking and how you’re acting. Stop focusing on the ‘could have,’ ‘should have’ or ‘would have’ and focus on the present. Stop dwelling on the situation or person who made you feel anxious and move forward.
3. Accept that you cannot always control the situation.
For many people, when they lose control of a situation or it doesn’t go as they planned it out in their head, they don’t know how to handle this change and begin to worry. Relaxation is key. When a situation doesn’t turn out as planned, instead of worrying about it just go with the flow. Accept the change with open arms and think positively. Take a deep breathe, tell yourself the situation is out of your control and stop obsessing about how to make it right.